Lovely Blog AWARD!

I received this lovely award from the lovely Karen at Fiction for Dessert I am to pass this award to fifteen of my favourite blogs. They are as follows:

writers rising
lessons from the monk I married
Elles Daily inspirations
Chronicles of Sharnia
Hopes Breath
Giving Thanks
Angela Goffe
Navajo
Belly up
A life of Miracles
Healing Morning
I'd rather be Blogging
Wanderlust
Waves upon the Shore
Heather Conroy's Verbal Report

I love each blog for different reasons. I seem to end up in the blog that my Soul knows I will find a precious jewel of wisdom, a smile, or a feeling of love and friendship.

Thank you lovely bloggers!

Love vs Control

When we think of LOVE, we do not associate it with control.

The romantic notion of LOVE conjures an image of two free souls flying in the ethers, oblivious to anybody else. There is psychedelic '70s music playing in the background where everything seems in slow motion. There are sunflowers, warm sun and there are no worries in the world, you're in heaven. (This image is taken from the Movie Forty Year Old Virgin!)

CRASH!!!! Back down to earth!

Once the honey moon period ends which in biological terms means when there has been enough time given so that the human species can reproduce, that 'loving feeling' suddenly disappears and seems a very distant memory.

How long does this lurvvvvve feeling last?

Generalizing now, anything from two months to eighteen months. But this is very general. It depends on external influences.

When the lurvvvve feeling goes, so do the rose tinted glasses. You see your love interest with cynical, even critical eyes. Suddenly your love conquest becomes someone you need to keep down at any cost.

This is not done in an obvious way (unless the individual has extreme trust issues) but little questions (gestapo style) start spilling out of your mouth.

You suddenly feel insecure, and try to recapture that initial loving feeling but cannot, so you rationalize that it's because he/she doesn't love you anymore.

Whereas before, there was not much conversation, for you to notice that you have absolutely nothing in common other than a physical attraction, now it is glaringly obvious that you have nothing in common, not even the physical.

This is where the 'relationship' might end (which realistically is a good idea if you notice there is no hope of your minds ever meeting!)

But, if you are a romantic, insecure, hopeful,or all three then you stick to it and think I will get him/her to love me AGAIN!

It was not LOVE love to begin with it was LUST!!!!!

Any way the control takes over which is of course, born out of fear and insecurities.

Suddenly, all these unspoken demands pop up from nowhere and if they are not psychically known then there are upsets, fights,stomping of the foot and weeping into your best friend's arms (hopefully not a friend of the opposite sex which spells disaster), saying that, you don't know why they've changed!

No, they have not changed, you can now see them as they ARE!!! And they can see you as YOU are!!

Control,is not only about expecting something from another it is also about expectations of situations.

For example, a woman may expect that the natural course of a relationship is to move in have kids(if you haven't had one already) and get married. Or you pretend you don't want to get married but live in fuming hope, becoming resentful each day because you are not being asked to become the wife, where you made it clear when you met that you are a free spirit and don't want to get married....... blah blah blah!

This is where communication needs to be learnt. NoW is when you need to tell each other what you want from each other. The lust stage didn't need you to communicate much as instinct ran most of the show.

Now, is where you tell each other what you want and listen to what the other wants.

'But that's not romantic, if he/she loves me they should know!!!!'

Who says that they should know?

Where do we get these presumptuous ideals?


'Love is patient,
Love is kind.
It does not envy,
It does not boast,
It is not proud.
It is not rude,
It is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil
But rejoices in the truth.
It always protects,
Always trusts,
Always hopes,
Always perseveres.'

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

The Angel guidance for today speaks of Abundance needing FAITH! Abundance is not just material gain, it is LOVE and JOY!

If we do not LOVE unconditionally, we cannot accept JOY, we cannot give LOVE and JOY!

Start today, by releasing control of situations, accept that 'GOD is in charge!' and give yourself some unconditional LOVE.

Then when it is time to share that LOVE, it will be coming from a pure place of LOVE and not control!

Go with the Ebb and Flow!

It still catches me off guard how one minute I can be soaring with the stars and then I am burrowing into the ground like a worm.

I am very sensitive to energy shifts, be it from the heavens or from people around me. I awoke with a heaviness I couldn't explain, other than I must have had a tiring dream night and there were things my sub conscious was still working on and my everyday consciousness, had not caught up yet.

I thought music would lift my spirits. So I turned the volume up and had a little dance (I waited for the kids to go to school of course, I don't want to give them disturbing nightmares!)

The music on the radio was from a time way back when I was a teenager myself. I was catapulted back to that time, and I remembered how much I loved to dance. Whatever was going on in my life I loved to 'boogie' (God am I that old?).

My troubles faded away and my limbs felt nimble and agile. I was a teenager again, attractive, carefree (not that I was a carefree child, I was born an old soul) and then I caught sight of my reflection in the mirror.

Argh!!!..... I've become one of those 'oldies' I used to laugh at dancing away at the 'DISCO'. It didn't matter how well they shook their stuff, the face, did not match the the rest of the 'package'.

So, I stopped...sat back down... and felt my energy just leave me.

As soon as I sat down a million other insecurities came knocking for my attention.

- I'm a crap Mum
- I'm a rubbish partner
- I don't have a proper job
- I am just a dreamer
- I am all talk and no action

On and on the list goes on.

Then for the finale, I started to think of my Mum. She died four years ago and even though I don't need the help of my 'happy' pills any more (anti depressants, not some illegal drug!) I still am taken aback at how intense my grief can be, especially when the 'tide is ebbing!'

I didn't feel very positive to post my Angel guidance early this morning, so I decided to check what was happening over at THHEGS. I joined the group Music-Soulfood on the network and read a comment by a fellow member. It was about music that reminded her of her Mum, who was in Spirit.

That was it, I went down a road that I knew would bring more pain. I listed all the songs that reminded me of Mum, since she passed away. I wrote my comment about it, cried a bucket full and then slumped over the computer, totally spent.

Tha Angel guidance for today suggests that there are cycles in life and with each ending of a cycle there is pain and grief. The Angels remind us we are not alone and if we ask, they are there to give us comfort and guidance for the next step.

Like the ebb and flow of the tide, it is a certain. There is pain/difficulty then there is happiness.

In times of low tide, maybe we just need to Stop and Surrender to the feelings it brings, however painful.

Soon enough, the tide will flow back, bringing with it new experiences, may be even some old experiences for you to 'notice' and then to let them go.

So instead of the mantra 'Go with the Flow', my new mantra is

GO with the EBB and FLOW!

Dreams Do Come True!

'Don't be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so.'
Belva Davis.

The Angel guidance today suggests that whatever you desire will come true! It asks you to be patient and to have faith and not to 'force' things to happen.

'Making things happen is an equation,it is as follows:

DREAM+FAITH+PATIENCE=REALITY

If we do not have one of these components it will not manifest, or it will manifest in a way which is not in the best interest for everyone involved.

The crystal for today is Clear Quartz, it is a master crystal, it speeds things up, it makes things happen, it makes all things clear.

Use the energy of the Quartz to clear your intentions releasing your dream off into the Universe.

As the quote by Davis states:

'Don't be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality'

Release your dream having no expectation, releasing the need to control situations.

'If you can dream it, you can make it so.'

If you can dream it, it will become a REALITY.

Have FAITH and PATIENCE!

Body, Mind and Spirit

When we go through a big release, we may feel fluey, achy and panicky. It is the body's way of releasing toxins. It is the same when you receive a healing from a therapy such as Reiki or Crystal Therapy.

The physical body is just one aspect of who we are. We are made of subtle energetic bodies as well that are sensitive to external influences. The external create the internal thoughts, the thoughts create the feelings and this leads to behaviour and action.

It does not stop there. The internal, which with time become ingrained thoughts and behaviours react with the external. This is where old patterns and beliefs become fixed and difficult to change.

Exercise helps the process of removing 'stuff'. It helps to clear the mind, cleans the chakras ( energy centres in the body) and helps with elimination.

An exercise like yoga is ideal because it uses breath and slow intentional movements, putting yourself into your body. You become one with your spiritual being, having a full body, mind and spirit workout.

There is a time to just BE!
There is a time for MOVEMENT!
There is a time to PLAY!
A time to SLEEP!
A time to WEEP!

Enjoy each moment,be in your own body, experience life through this vehicle we have been given. Look after it, honour it, trust it that it will look after your Spirit whilst on your journey on Earth.

Feed it with Soulfull food, exercise it with gentle movements, rest it with deep sleep and calming moments.

Fill it with awe, expelling the old, outdated patterns, allowing space for the new.

Pamper it, love it, adorn it, but do the same for your Spiritual being it houses.

You are a Spiritual being on a human journey. Combine the two to understand who you really are!

Release! Allow! Be!

Today, I have been made to stop in my tracks and change direction with everything I have tried to do. I started writing my blog early this morning, but the computer was not responding! I was being thrown out of the blog, I could not upload any photos and the keys on the key board kept getting stuck.

In the end I had ran out of time and I needed to be out of the house in 10 minutes to see my student that I mentor. Once at school, I 'knew' the student would not turn up. Am I psychic? Maybe, but more to the point, I was taking note of what was happening around me.

My student didn't turn up, I asked for him to be sent to me and we had a little chat about honouring the mentoring relationship. I gave him the options to stop meeting or to continue. If he wanted to continue, he had to be HERE!

On the bus journey home, a girl came on the bus and my thoughts jumped to a soap opera I had watched the previous evening where the girl looked like one of the actors. I was thinking that the scene in the soap was quite intense as it was a gang of teenagers intimidating a girl.

Whilst I was in my random thought, I heard a couple of women sitting behind me, mention the same scene, I was just thinking about. 'How freaky!' I thought. But was it freaky?

I have been having these synchronicity meetings non-stop recently in one way or another. Following are some example;

1) I am typing a word and someone on the T.V. says the exact word at the same time I am typing.

2) I am reading and the word I am reading is either said by someone on the T.V or the kids.

3) I check my mail and I receive a Newsletter from the Medical Intuitive Caroline Myss and her article is on 'Synchronicity'.

4) My writing reflects what other people are saying.

So, what is happening?

We need to stop and look around us and take in what is happening in our lives.

Are you happy? Are you sad? Are you honoring yourself? Are you being true to yourself? Are you following your heart?

Synchronicity, obstructions, detours are all nudges from your Soul to make you STOP! and LISTEN! LOOK! FEEL! and BE!


Release all, to allow in the NEW!
Move aside to let the sun shine though!
Do NOTHING!
Just BE!
Notice the love in all,
Be HAPPY!

Confusion!

There is much 'movement' both in our external world and internal worlds. Is what we feel inside creating the outside? Or is what we see outside creating the inside?

The quote by Talmud puts it as follows:


'We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are.' Talmud

So what do we do?

Do we process our 'stuff' again going to therapy to find what happened way back then?

We can, but there is another way. Just STOP! BREATH! and look around you.

Is this the reality you wish for?

Is this where you want to be?

Does this express what your heart desires?

If it is then do more of the same. If it is not, do something about it.

You are being supported all the time whilst you make adjustments. You are been guided to make changes.

Feelings of dread, unhappiness, emptiness are all nudges from your Soul to move. To move in the direction your Soul wants to go.

'But I'm confused!', You say.

Yes, it is confusing and with what is happening inside you is also happening on a bigger scale for the planet.

So, even though you see what YOU are - All is ONE!

In times of 'movement' and confusion, sometimes, it is best to stand still. Use the time to tweak your desires, your intentions. Use the time to get to know your heart.

In times of chaos around you and inside of you, the 'movement' moves blocked feelings and thoughts.

In confusion, you need time to re-evaluate!

Sometimes it is best to do NOTHING!

Be patient, re-centre, anchor into the Earth and wait for the confusion to pass.